A vitally important place to air your emotions, how you feel and what you think!
The F4J Have Your Say area is simply a place for everyone where you get the Freedom, Peace, Love and Respect to share what's going on for you.
There is no right or wrong about what you say or how you say it —
the main thing is you let it out!
So have your say, vent your spleen, say your peace, let your feelings, emotions and thoughts run free as opposed to bottling it up causing ill health in you and for others.
Chances are there is somebody relating to exactly what's happening or of concern to you. What you say may very well help others as well as yourself. Once we all realise we are not alone and we are all in this together in one form or another, as living men and women with fundamentally the same psychological and biological structure, a great sense of relief and peace can come from this knowing.
However, the only condition in this forum is we ask you not to identify family members by their true names. Not because of man made rules, fear or ignorance, but purely based on respect for yourself, your family and reasons of higher good, else you're free to let loose.
This Have Your Say section is an open forum and not censored as such giving you the freedom to let rip with whatever's on your mind.
So with all that out of the way.... Go straight to writing a comment now
http://www.familylawweek.co.uk/site.aspx?i=ed111922
If a referendum is not the answer, then please tell us what we should be asking for.
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Family Court Trial - By:Rambo from NSW, Australia on December 26, 2019 @ 11:38 amAlthough the game at the Family Court circus is rigged with far higher odds against fathers, winning is not always about being triumphant at the conclusion of a Final Hearing.
Firstly, there are no Final Orders when it comes to children as their needs are dynamic and always need to be reassessed. You could have another final hearing in 2 or 3 years time. This hearing on Monday maybe just one battle of a long war, not necessarily a foregone conclusion to having your kids lost forever.
If the FC appointed psych and child rep(ICL) are against you overtly or covertly cos you have a pair of coconuts and not in the FC club, there's not much you can do apart from giving it your best shot kicking them all in their nuts where it hurts, including members of the FC fraternity. Fighting for the rights and welfare of your children is paramount and must always be your first consideration, as I'm sure it is.
On a big picture scale it's a mother's domain with so much history to it, and not personally about you. Of course it's the 'norm' to award mum custody/residence at final hearing time, save rare exceptions.
Preliminary court advice to a self represented litigant in the absence of the above info made available would be to simply run process, be as clear minded and unemotional as you can, don't buy into all the tricks and allegations of the other side, and don't concern yourself with the outcome, as easy as that may sound.
The best you can do at this stage for the short and long term, is feel you have been credible, truthful and true to yourself. Saying what you believe is right and important, no matter what your lawyer has told you, what theatrics lawyers and the judge may throw at you, or what you hope or think the outcome maybe.
In the years to come knowing you did your best with what you knew and the resources you had to keep your kids safe will be what matters. We can't control everything all the time, and where it comes to safety of our kids this can be a hard pill to swallow.
Put all your concerns/abuses before the court and on the record with as much supportive independent evidence as possible. Abuses must be direct threats to the safety of the child. Abuses that any independent fair minded person would agree with, not just your set of values.
Good luck!
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desperate father needs advice - By:shane from QLD, Australia on December 26, 2019 @ 11:55 amSo who is up for it.
Join a class action for damages arising from the discrimination meated out by the BASTARD Judges and Magistrates
Use the ambulance chasers themselves, one of or a bunch of the big class action firms - no win no pay.
Don't wallow join up.
I want to hear from people willing to sign up and tell their story. Give the money to your kids for the slow start these bastards are imposing on them.
Who's up for it?
Are they planning to do anything or try to get away with doing nothing believing we will still vote for them because they are not quite as bad a Labour and the Greens. If they do nothing I'll vote for the lunatic fringe parties and see where that goes
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Minister 4 Men? - By:Admin from Vic, Austrlalia on December 26, 2019 @ 11:55 amWhat are we really trying to achieve in a big picture sense, as well as minor matters? There is no point in running around like headless chooks without clearly knowing what needs to be changed to make life better for all.
In a bid to seek clarity and unity in an ever changing world, F4J encourages all to have their say in the Minister for Men section.
http://www.f4joz.com/minister-for-men/
Should we even have one, or not, as is the present case?
Also, be sure to add your details for those who are keen to join other members in their state for meetings and protests.
http://www.f4joz.com/protests/
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There is nothing to stop us. - By:David Mortimer from Milton Keynes, UK on December 26, 2019 @ 11:56 amhttp://www.ukfamilylawreform.co.uk/megaphone/index.htm
I'm a long way behind with the things that I need to do but when I've caught up I will starting building a new section to the megaphone which will allow members from all the different help & support groups (who's contact details I've collected over the last 10 years) to let each other know about those who have been successful in the past & co-ordinate our efforts to bring about real change & redress in the future. There is nothing to stop us from demanding real change & redress when enough people are simply willing to help each other & they deal with one issue at a time.
http://www.publications.parliament.uk/pa/cm200405/cmselect/cmconst/116/11608.htm
It is pointless for the courts to make orders if those orders are not then enforced. There is a legitimate public interest in ensuring that where an order is made by the court it is subsequently obeyed. Failure to enforce contact orders is the basis of some of the claims that the system is 'biased against fathers'. Furthermore, a failure of the State to enforce orders in this sphere has been held by the European Court of Human Rights to amount to a breach of the State's positive obligations under the European Convention on Human Rights.
http://www.channel4.com/life/microsites/J/judges_in_the_dock/
In an exclusive investigation , Dispatches puts judges in the dock and asks why no judge has ever been sacked for incompetence. In fact, there are no records kept of how often judges are getting it wrong, and with what consequences.
Going back through the court transcripts of over 5,000 successful appeals and gathering the opinions of leading QCs, Dispatches reveals for the first time the alarming scale of judicial mistakes that can have devastating effects on those up before the court. This film is a special investigation by Mark Easton, Home Affairs Editor at Channel 4 News.
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The Answer - By:Moses from QLD, Australia on December 26, 2019 @ 11:57 am1
Public Abuse - By:JamesR from Vic, Australia on December 26, 2019 @ 11:56 amOn this Shame & Name theme, I believe we need one not aimed at mums or dads, but all officials that supposedly serve the public. This would include the organisation plus key personnel like managers and executives etc.
Is Australia advancing or simply going backwards?
Every industry, every sign and example shown by many seems to indicate we are going down hill.
I really want to believe we are moving forward but just don't see it.
I am a positive person. I can look at the sky, trees, animals, nature, the beauty of life like our children and breathe in our wonderful air, but everything man is touching is going to rack n ruin. Why?
What's really going on, am I the only one feeling this phenomena? Does it feel like your spirit is breaking? I thought we were the lucky country from being smart.
I would really like to hear what others have to say?
From: david@ukfamilylawreform.co.uk
To: mwilshaw@ofsted.gov.uk
Sent: Monday, October 21, 2013 5:43 PM
Subject: Who are their policies designed to protect children from?
Dear Sir Michael Wilshaw,
If councils don't collect information on child abuse perpetrators how can they write policies which would effectively protect children & would you kindly ask those who don't collect this information who their policies are designed to protect children from?
Yours Sincerely
David Mortimer
It was very hard to get out of the 7 yr relationship with her as you do feel sorry for them, you help them, you have your own stuff going on and sometimes you fall in love with them and want to remain loyal and make a real go of the relationship.
But what it really means is you fall victim to their prey-ing mantis mentality and your in deep sh&&t.
Funny thing tho my ex wife who i had kids with many years ago, well i had learnt from a forensic psyche that she was a narcisist and another woman i dated for a bit was also abit that way. Wow i said to moir what am i doing to attract these types. Havent figured it yet apart from the thrill i sometimes got with them.. at times mind you. And now im with a normal woman where i sometimes think is something missing and perhaps the problem is with me...
From: david@ukfamilylawreform.co.uk
To: Mark Lancaster2
Sent: Wednesday, October 16, 2013 3:16 PM
Subject: Fatherlessness linked to crime levels and anti-social behaviour.
Hi Mark,
I've copied below a message I sent on the 10th of August in 2004.
Best regards Dave
http://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/euro-dads/conversations/topics/18390
I was pleased that Mr Howard said that boys benefit hugely from a fathers influence and with girls that it reduces pregnancies. Mr Howard has realised that divorce and fatherlessness are linked to crime levels and anti-social behaviour but there are many factors contributing to the rise in juvenile violence and crime, from the glorification of violence in the media to the failure of the "war on drugs but the main causes is the relationship between the welfare state and crime.
NEW research shows that single mothers are more prevalent in countries where the state provides plenty of benefits. In Britain a quarter of all children are brought up by single parent mothers more than any other in the European Union and Increases in public support for single mothers is significantly associated with a higher prevalence of never-married and divorced mothers in 17 western countries.
Best regards Dave
http://www.timesonline.co.uk/newspaper/0,,170-1208243,00.html
August 09, 2004
Howard blames fathers
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Police state or am I going mad?? - By:Petie from New South Wales, Austalia on December 26, 2019 @ 11:57 am"Controversial changes to Victoria’s speed camera rules will allow police to hide behind trees and road signs and position themselves at the bottom of hills in the name of camera operator safety.
A News Limited report reveals the new policy changes – which come into effect immediately – that claim to be designed to protect mobile speed camera operators from motorists by allowing them to hide behind bushes, poles and other fixed objects.
While previously speed cameras were “under no circumstances” permitted to be covertly concealed and banned from use on downhill sections of road, the new wording allows their use in such instances if the “road safety objective” can’t be achieved in another position.
Victoria Police defended the changes to the speed camera rules, contending that the amendments embraced some of the recommendations made by the state’s speed camera commissioner.
“The amendments were made to specifically focus on the occupational health and safety of mobile speed camera operators, which is paramount in ensuring they can work in a safe environment,” a Victoria Police spokesperson said.
Are you f...cking serious!! Let's look after the little camera operator revenue raisers at the xpense of families and children going under and breaking up due to financial stress. Seriously, put this much pressure on people and people are gona start crashin into these camera operators and probably much much worse! I'm surprised camera poles haven't been yet cut down with angle grinders??
The mobile speed camera policy changes will be made publically accessible on the Victorian Government’s ‘Cameras Save Lives’ website.
The website explains mobile cameras are used in unmarked vehicles at approximately 2000 locations across Victoria’s road network. A list of the locations is also available online.
Locations for mobile cameras in Victoria must satisfy at least one of the following: there has been a serious or major collision at the location in the past three years; there have been complaints of excessive speed; it has been identified by Victoria Police to be a speed-related problem location; and, speed enforcement by non-camera devices is unsuitable."
http://www.caradvice.com.au/255490/speed-camera-rule-changes-allow-vic-police-hide-behind-trees-hills/
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Shame on us - By:Moses from QLD, Australia on December 26, 2019 @ 11:57 am1
Name/Shame wall - By:Lostinspace from vic, australia on December 26, 2019 @ 11:57 amNarcissism is prevalent everywhere you look, and on the rise no doubt about it. The Legal and Family Law Industry is a hot spot, but anywhere there is money and power you will find it.
This narcissistic and almost sociopath phenomena can largely be attributed to the ever increasing harshness of our environment, causing many to become selfish and look after No 1. using the ol' addage "Stuff you Jack I'm ok". It's often sickening and disheartening to see this attitude seemingly flourish in this day and age, it's a problem both simple and complex.
The generic labels one can use are Fascism and Communism. The Communist Manifesto and history books indicate how an ever increasing police state underpins this cancerous creep into our civilization.
Victorian news announced last night that State budget revenue from infringements was double their expectation. From $149M to over $300M and that over 3000 new police [not police as we'd like to know them, just revenue collectors] are on order.
Australia is falling in line just like the UK and USA and must be met with resistance of love and higher consciousness. These historic and archaic ideals of F&C by a relative few may control our bodies as they own us in almost every way, but they don't own our hearts and souls. This is why we must all look within working hard on ourselves to become more loving and peaceful in a spiritual way. Violence only begets violence but love and non-compliance of evil trumps all. History has proven this.
Enough contact in whatever way so the child feels in their heart and soul that you truly love, care and are concerned about them. Kids have to feel they haven't been forgotten. It's about connection not so much quantity.
Whilst everyone gets angry with the unfairness that happens to them with the whole Div/Sep clap trap process, blaming others and naming them really doesn't solve anything.
This is not always apparent to us at first especially when we're feeling pain and helplessness against an anti-family system, but the cause of our issues aren't external, they're internal.
It can be bloody hard, but we must all look inside for both the problems and solutions to all our woes. When we do this and in time, healing can take place.
If ME wants to so desperately want a name & shame page up, why don't you do one yourself? Or if other members/users think its a good idea in a positive way please state your case.
THE BIG PICTURE (well some of it anyway)
From 1975 - 2013 or thereabouts, many men as fathers have had to pay a stiff price upon Divorce or a Separation.
Through loss of time with the kids or complete alienation, financial disparity if not financial ruin, loss of power and control and a hard whack to the male ego, identity and expectations, or simply a loss of their life psychologically, emotionally or physically.
But didn't all these losses somehow resemble men and fathers going off to war, where men were somehow proud to go abroad and fight for their country? So what's the difference now for a man or father between the losses he may incur through going off to war and the losses he sustains through a Divorce or Separation?
Whilst both scenarios are similar, what makes one more palatable than the other, or have men been jibbed on both accounts?
Taking it a step further what are men meant to learn from these two paradigms?
Are men being in alignment with their true nature in either case and if not, what really is a man's fundamental true nature?
What is the authority on a man't true nature? Is there any one man on the planet we can say is an honourable role model for all men? What about throughout history or in the bible (the greatest story ever told)?
Or are we slowly awakening to the fact we have been lost or misled, and in the throws of creating a new male species?
Are men having to evolve in alignment with their environment, or should we be all working together to create something new and something better, discarding this old defunct model?
So who's controlling our environmental landscape and for the good of who or what?
Taking a spiritual perspective, and I don't mean religious, may just be the way forward for all us men and fathers. Maybe learning and remembering who we truly are is really the path for us all.
In closing remember one thing, we came in with nothing and we will leave with nothing, so what would you like to contribute in the brief time you are here?
Unfortunately as I wrote this, I came up with more questions than I did answers, I hope this is or service to someone and some other part of me.
Child abuse is an industry that like the CSA, ATO, Legal, courts & authorities just to name a few, will do whatever it takes to protect itself from the onslaught of public pressure if the truth were to be revealed. It's a disgrace and the only real protection of these children is for mums & dads to be wise and just protectors of their children, also whatever it takes!!
The fight is on lads, not against other countries in stupid wars that are pointless, but against those who attack our kids and families. United we stand - divided we fall!
http://macurstatement.blogspot.com.ar/2013/07/review-statement-of-andrea-davison-1.html
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pkMkjMLqpog
It's quite repulsive for you to question my identity whilst failing to disclose your own. But, it's not surprising, most Australian dads are too scared to stand up and be counted.
Sadly, the number of Australian dads that have actually 'done' something (anything) could be counted by a 2 year old.
