A vitally important place to air your emotions, how you feel and what you think!
The F4J Have Your Say area is simply a place for everyone where you get the Freedom, Peace, Love and Respect to share what's going on for you.
There is no right or wrong about what you say or how you say it —
the main thing is you let it out!
So have your say, vent your spleen, say your peace, let your feelings, emotions and thoughts run free as opposed to bottling it up causing ill health in you and for others.
Chances are there is somebody relating to exactly what's happening or of concern to you. What you say may very well help others as well as yourself. Once we all realise we are not alone and we are all in this together in one form or another, as living men and women with fundamentally the same psychological and biological structure, a great sense of relief and peace can come from this knowing.
However, the only condition in this forum is we ask you not to identify family members by their true names. Not because of man made rules, fear or ignorance, but purely based on respect for yourself, your family and reasons of higher good, else you're free to let loose.
This Have Your Say section is an open forum and not censored as such giving you the freedom to let rip with whatever's on your mind.
So with all that out of the way.... Go straight to writing a comment now
can fully belive that the FLC would do such a thing
the sad fact is that the FLC has the power to destroy lives
with the conection to realiety that a demencher suffer has
i feel for you
Having just published my 170th Campaign blog, 200th political blog and definative Family Justice blog following the condesending Review the Ministry of Justice published last November I am not sure I have much more to say on this other then lets get behind all the excellent protests , lobbying . local radio comments and ultimatly Occupy movement and make it happen this year! Happy New year folks!
It is come to my attention I am going to have to sell the Ex's car, my car and the furniture to be debt free.
I have a lower back injury for where I currently work, they have relocated me to another job within the business. I will not get another job again because of this lower back injury for myself as a cripple. I know there are worse people out there whom are worse than me but I am working and keeping every thing together for my children.
I will have to sell up amd leave this lovely town as it is far too expensive to live here in a mining town, move some where else and start again hopfully.
I love my kids and when I travel 8 hours to see them, they will not let me go and neither will I. Now that I have to come to this decision, the CSA does not know how expensive this town is to live in, now my children will never see there Dad again.
I thought the CSA were there to help both sides, aparently not. They have just ruined my relationship with my children.
Thank you CSA
What you can do depends on what you're wanting to achieve short and long term, and what lengths you're willing to go to.
How much money is at stake, who's getting it and is most of it getting to the kids now and for their future?
Two and a half years ago I split from my long term partner and we had two children whose names I cant say for I have a suspended prison sentence if I do. Over this time I went to court 23 times and suffered all the usual dirty tricks fathers face from their ex's. I estimated that it cost the UK tax payer 0ver half a million pounds in court and lawyer fees.
In march this year I had a serious heart attack. AS I run and keep fit, am slim with a healthy diet, don't smoke or drink too much we can only assume that the stress got the better of me. I havn't seen my kids for over two years now and every day has it's pain moments.
I am a UK F4F justice follower but my health dictated that I back off, otherwise I won't be around when I eventually do see my kids. The family law system in the UK sucks and I foolishly thought that as a first world mature country we were above such things. Now I honestly think there is something much more sinister afoot.
I left the UK to recover and am living temporarily in Brasil. In fact I'm on my way for the 4th time to your lovely country in November 2011 to see my Aussie sisters and two brothers.
I will never give up my fight. For the time being I snipe and campaign from the safety of Facebook and my blog well out of reach of those bastards in the UK. But I am going back in July to restart my campaign with the F4FJ UK.
Cos quite clearly they don't give a stuff about their clients. Surprised? You shouldn't be. They get paid a heap of cash from the Government just for having people (disabled or otherwise) on their books, without doing very much in return. Not a bad racket really for those in management and higher.
Regardless of phone calls or emails complaining about their inadequate services, giving them a chance to make things better and right, Nah you are simply ignored!!
Unbelievable you would think, especially in a mental or physical health sector where staff should be caring and understanding at the very least toward their unwell clients.
Just as the nursing homes were uncovered for their disgraceful and inhumane conduct and poor standards, so too will the Mental Health Sector who receives billions of Tax dollars every year for causing in many cases more harm than good.
Who are watching these organisations and people need to speak up!
Shame! Shame! Shame!
Checkout movie The Sunset Limited guys with Tommy Lee Jones & Samuel L. Jackson. Jones depicts an intelligent man (professor) who tried to commit suicide as he is disillusioned by all the bad & hopelessness in the world. Conversely Jackson is the optimist with faith who saves him, at least for a while. Very deep storytelling. Enjoy!
Anyway, I watched a movie "The Beaver" last nite with Mel Gibson and think it was meant to portray a man who had a breakdown, or mid life crisis or somethin affecting his business and home life.
It was a story bit different to mine and most guys I suspect where the father had a supportive wife, his kids were with him, he had a home, money, car, job and business, so really not that bad. Plus as usual with most movies it had a happy ending.
Finding a way in which I could have a happy now and ending would be nice - I'm not sure what's missing?
The place of the offence was on a freeway where the recommended limit was 110km/hr.
The fine was $149.00. Great psychological amount perhaps to make you feel better, yet no steak knives.
The point is fellow Australians is that what car can really give you an accurate reading within a 10km/hr on the speedo let alone having your mind stay focused on the speedo and not the traffic, whilst being in fear of what speed cameras are lurking around to catch you doing a few kilometres over the limit (especially on a freeway)!!!
Another point is how many people cop these ridiculous revenue raising speeding fines (courtesy of Tenix Solutions - the business and mastermind back-bone behind Victorian and other police forces), and on a daily basis??
These fines are by no means cheap especially when an average worker or person travels some distance in a day, increasing his or her chance of getting these insatiable fines.
We all know this is pure revenue raising and not at all about safety. Not when it's only a few k's over the limit.
What of the pressure and stresses placed upon ordinary fathers, mothers, families and children when money gets taken from their hand without real justification?
It's stealing is what it is?
Government sanctioned THEFT is what it is!
Cast upon apathetic Australians who cop it sweet and don't fight back for their rights — what's fair, just and equitable, save a few merry souls.
What about the food, shelter and necessities that children go without because of these looting speeding fines?
These fines are criminal!
STAND UP people before it's too late!
Is it just me or is common sense disappearing, or has it always been absent?
Where does common sense come from? Good question and glad you asked.
Without referring to precise definitions I understand common sense to mean making sound decisions based on general knowledge, observation and experience. Perhaps based on the universal law of cause and effect. What you action usually nets a particular result.
It shouldn't be too much hard work of the mind, yet it seems to be missing with many people I have interacted with, especially in government systems. Just look all around at the many government flunkies and I'm sure you will see what I mean if you haven't already formed this opinion and moved on.
So why do many people in governments such as Centrelink and all the related organisations have alot of people that seem to be lacking something between the ears? That grey matter one often refers to.
Is it perhaps a prerequisite of the Australian government to employ a large number of people who can't think or employ common sense, and act merely as mindless robots attached to a keyboard and monitor?
Look, I'm not really sure what's going on but it often is a huge struggle to find someone with some intelligence on the other end of the phone or face to face.
I have a disability and mental illness and I'm sure one would think we get better treated by the system. Well, not wanting to burst your bubble, this is not always the case. Whether it be the people or the computer systems they must obey, usually come first even in the presence of good quality logic and common sense.
Instead on a mentally ill person getter better help from the system to improve their mental health, I for one, continually run into barriers to get the right help. The more I seek help, want a normal life and to get back to suitable work, the more I get the red hot poker shoved up my backside. Metaphorically speaking of course.
As my mental health deteriorates on some level from system abuse, I feel like I'm one step closer to going mad as I sometimes begin to question my own sanity and common sense, as the actions I partake in do not adequately translate into positive results.
Anyway, it's a daily battle and perhaps it's all my fault and perception. I'm the silly one that tries to do the right thing yet get burned for it.
If I'm the mad one, fine, open the front door to the loony farm cos here I come.
DATE: 27TH JULY 2011
TIME: 7.30pm Blacktown Workers Club,
55 Campbell Street Blacktown NSW 2148
Issues: Discrimination against boys and men in society
ALL WELCOME
This provisional way of thinking is a totalitarianism method of taking the money first and then thinking about whether in fact you have a right to get it back, notwithstanding whether you were ever entitled to pay a specific quantum in the first instance. Yes, the sheriff of Nottingham is well and truly in town.
This provisional mentality runs along the theme of user pays, just like how child support is assessed on what your capacity to earn is rather than an actual current figure, and just like paying paying taxes all ahead of time. Income, gst, provisional in businesses and so on.
I'm sure there are many levels to it all but as a suggestion i would write to the CSA requesting they provide you with the relevant 'dictatorial' legislation that allowed them to garnish your so called private bank account with what authority to take what amount.
There are various CSA Acts but it's better they explain their actions as to you just guessing.
Look in fairness, there are some asshole fathers out there who don't give a rat's arse about their kids, and I think these type of of methods are necessary in certain instances, however these men are usually cunning and setup mechanisms that are beyond CSA intervention.
You on the other hand are paying child support, at least to the mother. Of course, never being sure as to if or how it is directed to the welfare of the kids. I know of women who lavishly waste this money on themselves with little regard to the kids. These women are of course trash and don't deserve the title of mother.
It always seems to be good people who get heir heads put on the chopping block but these are all lessons to awaken us.
They had no kids and I thought both were emotionally and intellectually capable of dissolving the marriage and assets(home & biz) without much fuss and lawyers, at least for most of it anyway. However, it has taken over 6mths and both were induced by lawyers along the way, she more than him, and have racked up about $40k between them for attendances, phone calls and correspondence but not court apps or appearances. So it can be easily seen how quickly the legal bills increase, especially when there was never any real need for lawyers.
It's yet another example of how both sides can get easily drawn in, even with both actually able to communicate even with all the horrid abuse. So one can only imagine if both didn't talk, how much trouble they could really be in. So people get your emotions under control and keep those lines of communication open, whatever it takes.
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A.No, cos there ain't no house cos they took that too!
My idea on family lawyers is that many will take your money under the pretense of offering you a valuable service, yet divide your family down the middle conquering you all & leaving you all to pick up the pieces for a long time to come. They are like witch doctors who keep you in the dark and keep information a mystery to force people to rely upon them. It's the ultimate trap!
Seriously, once you have your emotions under control the rest is common sense & just askin a few questions here & there. Family lawyers can often inflame situations reducing your power & control. Often the amount of time, money, energy you give lawyers in your attempt to have them work for you is often not worth the frustration & harm that can arise.
There are a few a good lawyers who are good people but they still fall down in areas. Best to realise in the first instance you don't need them, but yes, sometimes lawyers are a necessary evil.
There are many points that can be commented on however, firstly I will mention an important piece of advice, albeit of a general nature, coming from many years of experience of helping people.
To cope with the changes and effects accompanying a separation and to get to a better place, it often takes a shift of our perception and an understanding of both our ex's and our values, with usually a realignment of ours.
This no easy feat depending on one's personality, maturity, attitude, perception and past. So don't be too hard on yourself, although a great time of learning is ahead of you if you choose. People in life are here to help us grow and this includes our ex and children.
Well done on the promotion to supervisor and understand the long haul and impact on your life after a desertion. I totally agree with you on the lack of fairness issue, however if we are totally honest at a deep level, we all reap what we sow. And who knows, the new path you are all on may just prove to be a better road to fulfillment for all.
One thing's for sure tho, life is difficult and it ain't always a bed of roses.
Seems that a lot of government policies are derived from the mostly flawed research coming from this man-hating "discipline".
Hellspit.....Just in case you didn't realise, kids need their dads.
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