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Child Support — What does it all mean?
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Who wants to be dictated to by the State on how you support your children — what, how and when?

Whilst many views float around arguing for and against child support, most decent fathers and parents would argue the issue is not whether or not they wish to support their children, but rather the often unfair conditions imposed upon them.

Simply, it's an attack on the nature of a father's freedom and how he best wishes to raise and support his children in the many different ways a responsible father can, which are often more effective and benefical to a child than any 'slap-bang' instrument of government and statism can ever be.

For a father going through separation/divorce, experiencing the loss of family and children, horrendous false allegations, litigation, uncertainty of where your children are and how they are doing, often causes ill health, work and life instability in so many ways. Also, the effects from not having a fully functioning and emotionally present Dad in a child's life can be equally, if not more devestating as their development can be hindered considerably.

Then if that isn't bad enough, along comes an assessment from the Child Support Agency (CSA) for an outlandish sum of money based on your capacity to work at the highest rate when you were fit and able and on fire, which is possibly a stark contrast to where your financial position is today, or will be in the future if you are unable to recover from the upheaval of a traumatic separation that's often compared to a fate worse than death.

From 2006 CSA powers in Australia have increased to not only garnish your wages, but directly withdraw from bank accounts any amount they deem appropriate, siezing assets of any sort to pay the often highly questionable and unjust debts. As Fathers are assaulted with such draconian measures, one can only feel a sense of dictatorship giving rise to a totalitarian society — not a free Australia — causing fathers to unite and fight for their rights and freedom.

As there are many issues surrounding child support and the effects upon fathers, children and families,

Share your opinion and experiences about the pros and cons of child support,
lifting the veil on a most horrid part of family breakup!

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    By: MrB from Vic, Auistralia on August 25, 2016 @ 1:23 am
    Yes you can stop them calling you. I wrote to them years ago and said "you are hereby notified that all further contact must be in writing" and they stopped calling. I also told them to "post all correspondence to my PO Box XX at XXXXXXXX" and they do. They send letters now and then asking me to call them.... I don't.
    By: garret k lavigne from fl, pasco on August 25, 2016 @ 1:09 am
    I was refused my right as a citizen of the U.S.A. a fair and just trial we need to stop this EXTORTION in this system .we need to right to our lawmakers they are the one's that started this child support system. this is a contract that you never signed or agreement with . you're forced by the corrupt court system to pay child support. You should have the right to how you want to support your child NOT THE GOVERMENT all they are doing is dertroying you'r life. That will never help your ckild
    By: Byron from Vic, Au on August 24, 2016 @ 7:54 pm
    Robyn, yes they know we have 50/50, they base it on capacity to earn and have decided that even though my tax returns are well below 50k, they beleive that I have the capacity to earn over 100k. I work in hospitality and have never earnt over 50k per year, let alone over 100k. They say it's their determination and there is nothing I can do about it, they are trying to up payments to $550 per fortnight. Leaving me even less to live off and care for my kids.
    By: robin from New South Wales, Australia on August 24, 2016 @ 3:48 pm
    Has your x told csa you have 50-50 care as this goes towards your payments as you are meeting your cost
    As far as making payments csa take 1-2 dollors to every 100 you pay to cover their costs and as your x get family tax A & B she will be on the lower end she might be getting 260 a fornight. You are 1 of the good guys who pay csa and dont hide your money. My x hides his money and everything he owns in his new wifes name so he dosnt have any thing on paper so as far as csa and the tax man know he doesnt have any money and doesnt work
    By: Byron from Vic, Au on August 23, 2016 @ 9:46 pm
    Robyn & Mel
    So why do CSA make me pay over $400 a fortnight when I have 50% custody of my 3 kids. I don't own a house, I am left with less than $500 a fortnight to live on whist my ex works, collects parenting payments and over $400 per fortnight from me, whist I struggle to feed and house my kids in the 50% I have them. The system definitely discriminates against the fathers.
    By: robin from New South Wales, Australia on August 23, 2016 @ 8:42 am
    Im the same work my ass of for my 2 kids yet my x ownes 3 business 2 cars goes on holidays with his new wife and her kids but CSA say he has no income so there is a way the x who is meant to pay can get away with it. Kids cost a lot to raise I dont think the system is fair on the ones who do pay they do it hard as well its the left overs who do everything in their power to rip the system off that is in place. Theres not a lot you can do unless you put in a Reason 8 to CSA stating your cost of living out ways your earning and hes under declairing his
    By: Rob from WA, Australia on August 23, 2016 @ 3:52 am
    Mel from SA. Are you collecting from CSA or private? if it is CSA then your ex has found a way around the system as I can tell you first hand they would not be saying $50 a week and that's if he was on the dole!!
    I am being scalped 10 times that for one child. My issue is also that although I have my kid more than the 51 days a year that qualifies me for part care, my ex refuses to admit it and keeps telling CSA how I don't.(yes I know about receipts and all the other proof but when it comes to proving forward not backwards, there is no proof as far as they are concerned)so not only am I copping the $500 a week plus have to pay for my sons travel and other stuff and at the end of the day there is no back pay or credit, its a simple"too bad" and you just keep paying and paying until you are bled dry. If you are getting ripped off by an arsehole then id suggest you go through CSA as they WILL make him pay.
    1300. By: Mel from SA, Australia on August 21, 2016 @ 11:16 pm
    As a mother who collects child support, I really struggle to understand some of the comments posted here. I work full time, have full time care of my child and have no family close by to help with before and after school care so I pay about $100 a week to after school care just so I can go to work. I work like this so that I can put a safe roof over our heads, keep us warm in winter, not to mention clothe, feed, educate and pay for all the other incidentals raising a child presents. I have no down time, as homework, sport, grocery shopping and keeping a tidy house takes this away. I too am under enormous mental strain. My child's father completely owns his home, two lovely cars, a boat and many other numerous toys. However he believes that having to pay any more than 50 a week is ridiculous. I am not wanting to sound like a jerk, but that amount does not even cover a quarter of what it costs to raise a child in today's world. Additionally, if there is any money left over, I put it in a safety account for my child. Even if only $10.sometimes people should really analyse the cost of raising a child before ranting. It is not only material goods, it is also emotional and physical labour that is not ever given credit for. I know some women do the selfish claims, but if not for the child support agency I would be left high and dry. We are not all horrible people.
    By: Prostaa from victoria, Australia on August 17, 2016 @ 6:23 pm
    Would people like mark from NSW please not post stupid false messages about their situation and then mention empower network to advertise a scam. It's disrespectful to the genuine real comments.
    By: mark from NSW, Australia on August 16, 2016 @ 4:17 pm
    Hi I've been separated from my wife now for 12 months after being married for just under 10 years now she is chancing child support because of my job I can only have my son 1 night a week. So because I have to work I'm time poor I bet there's a lot of father's out there with the same problem I could quit my job and go onto the dole but how are you to live on the money they give you and they will be tell you to get another job or they will cut your dole anyway. So I have to find something to make me the money I'm making now but give me time to have with my son so I joined the empower network there you can create a team and help each other out. Have a look. beats sitting on the dole.
    By: Bonnie from Vic, Au on August 14, 2016 @ 7:07 pm
    Hi, my husband obtained a debt with CSA when they back dated his payments when his ex entered the system. He has been unable to pay it, he has a payment plan with them and pays every fortnight. But they continue to harass and threaten him. He has now been diagnosed with depression, the CSA harrasment over the past 2 years has played a big part in the cause. He refuses to log into the CSA online system as he believes they can see when he logs in and what he looks at and when. Does anyone know if he can request snail mail only communication and ban them from calling him? This would go a long way to helping him to get better. Thank you in advance.
    By: Charlie from Vic, Australia on August 13, 2016 @ 3:58 pm
    I have 3 kids and my annual income is $115000 and they calculated based in that gross salary I need to pay $1965 a month and total child support payment annually is $23000 ..
    By: Tony from WA, Czech Republic on August 12, 2016 @ 12:58 pm
    Hi I need some help. I have been separated for 8+ years and up until a year ago supported my ex, my son and a child from her previous relationship. I put both through private school (bills paid totally by me) and gave over $1500 per month and extras as part of a private agreement. I now know this was excessive but did not mind so long as my boys were OK. She works for CSA and is a lawyer. I live in Europe. 18 months ago the company I worked for collapsed, and I lost my well paid job. I told her I would have to cut back on support, she started getting really abrasive and threatening (stopped my son from coming on paid holiday to Europe etc.), communication broke down. Had to go to CSA for maintenance. They are calculating my income off old details, and tell me I need to pay around $1100 per month, when my current income is $750 per month (cash). I have been open about my cash income and tried to provide stamped time sheets but they don't accept them. They claim I could work for more and choose not to, to avoid paying. This is not the case at all, I am constantly trying to get more well paid work. The CSA takes over a month to get back to me between emails. Currently CSA 'bill' is over $11000 and I can't see how to pay it. They have given me a change of circumstances form but told me if they accept it, it is not retrospective. Is there a support group/cheap lawyers for people who are stuck like me? My assets now include a small amount of money in Czech account, some Australian Superannuation (which I cannot access) and that is it. No house no vehicles any more. I want to visit my son but am scared CSA won't let me leave the country and go home to Europe (still Aussie citizen). How can I find out if I am on a 'no exit' list? Thankyou very much.
    By: robin from New South Wales, Australia on August 12, 2016 @ 9:05 am
    dont sign the passport papers for your x she cant leave australia with the kids with out your help if she does its classed as kidnapping and she can be stopped at the airport

    if your paying 2000 a month u must be on a lot a yr as thats wrong even by csa standred they cant take no more than 17% of your wage plus how many kids do u have ?
    By: Byron from Vic, Au on August 11, 2016 @ 9:05 pm
    Charlie... Sorry to tell you, but they WILL take your tax return and quite possibly will stop you leaving the country. They are pigs, with no compassion.
    By: Charlie from Victoria, Australia on August 11, 2016 @ 7:21 pm
    Can't believe csa have no compassion for working fathers trying to make ends meet whilst maintaining csa payments ,I'm paying $2000 a month and have just been hit with a $8000 bill as I under estimated my income by $20000and they fined me $600 for under estimating ,they must be joking I called them and they didn't care less about my financial position they just said its another bill I clearly told them I can't afford to pay that amount as I'm in arrears with my rent and struggling to make ends meet ,they couldn't care less ,they say they use a formula to work out what it costs to raise a child but this figure keeps going up,I was paying $1267 month and all of a sudden it's jumped to $2000 a month I agree with a lot of fathers that working isn't a option and your better off on the dole,we all fathers know what's best for our children and we don't bloody need the csa to dictate to us how to raise our children ,I've also haven't seen my beautiful kids for 3 years now as I haven't got the funds to take the ex to court,everytime I speak with csa I just want to end it then and there because I feel let down and no compassion or understanding,they actually threaten you if you don't make payments ,they'll garnish your wages take it at tax time ,withdraw any money out of your bank accounts and take assets also stop you from leaving the country,I'm a tax paying person who pays close to $40000 tax per year and they treat me like a criminal they must be joking ,we'll know more because I'm going to finish up work next week so I don't have to pay for the mortgage of my ex and will raise and support my children as a father should without the idiots at csa,for all the fathers out there we need someone to support us and take it to the stupid governments we have to listen to real story's of how many fathers are struggling out there..
    By: Scott from Qld , Australia on August 11, 2016 @ 10:41 am
    Just keeps getting worse! These scum in cahoots with my beloved ex have officially bankrupted me, I work my butt of to try get ahead yet between tax and csa I pay out 1200 a week leaving me with 700 to try save for a car, house (living in a bloody truck full time) and now find out the beloved ex has purchased return tickets to Nepal for 4 weeks vacation!!! And they wonder why the suicide rate in men is so high??? Would be so much easier than dealing with CSA
    1290. By: robin from New South Wales, Australia on August 8, 2016 @ 9:04 am
    As long as you dont have a bank acc car or any thing in your name CSA class you as a not paymenting parent in other words they cant get a red cent from you at all the case will still be open fees and charges will still go up they just wont chase you for the money.

    You still have to pay CSA for your kids ONLY not the new ones if your x doesnt work her problem not yours have new orders put in place saying in that you will pay for the air fairs instead of CSA something a long those lines if she moves back to WA
    By: Hi mike from NT, Australia on August 6, 2016 @ 8:50 pm
    Hi mike pal it can be done. I did something quite similar. Got sacked by repetedly turning up late, leaving early, calling in sick and surfing the net when it wasn't my break. As far as I'm aware my super hasn't been touched. My house is actuly in my uncles name hes single don't know if that makes a difference but I changed it before I got sacked. I also changed my car to him and I'm insured for it but my uncles the primary driver. I'm on the dole but work for cash so i don't lead a shabby existense. Best of luck and remember to keep your assets off paper and seem like you've disappeared from planet earth.
    By: Bob from WA, Australia on August 5, 2016 @ 10:00 am
    Hi, hoping someone can help. I am currently looking after my children full time as their mother lives interstate. She moved away a year ago and originally took the children with her. I went to court and the children were returned. After the final hearing, the judge suggested the children remain in WA :) Now my ex is thinking of returning to WA, which means we will have shared care (50%) however as i work i will have to pay her child support! which i feel is unfair due to the fact she is not working because she is at home looking after her new children. So to me it seems i'm paying for her to stay home and look after her new children. Is there any way this can be taken in to consideration?
    By: Mike from Vic, Aust on August 4, 2016 @ 9:52 pm
    Ok guys comments on my plan please cos I've had enough.

    I plan on getting sacked from work (nothing detrimental I.e police charges) so when I put in for Coa they cannot say potential earnings. Now at almost 56 I'll probably won't get employed and only get the dole and csa amount based on that.

    I have a house in joint names with my new wife. Don't think csa can touch that.
    We have a joint bank account.. Csa cannot touch that.
    I have an investment property that I changed the title into my new wife's name under the love and affection rule a few years ago...not sure if csa can touch that.
    No cars or any other assets in my name so a warrant of seizure and sale is useless.
    I have a super account in accumulation phase.. Not sure if they can touch that.

    My wife will set up a company in her name alone and any monies earnt will be to her company.
    If I earn any money at all it will only be at the protected amount $18200 p/a.

    Can anyone see any flaws here where csa can still fuck me over

    Thanks for any replies
    By: mic from vic, aus on August 3, 2016 @ 9:34 am
    Spot on Ben who I believe may be referring to a commercial agreement which can give rise to a contract. Don't apply/register/contract with CSA in anyway else you may be entering into agreement and obligated to abide by their terms which are truck load of statutes and common law. ie. you may be f*cked unless you add your own terms and fee schedule for your own protection. A unilateral agreement (offer + acceptance) can be like a mousetrap going off...sudden death or a slow and painful one! Wriggling free can be difficult as many will attest to. Ask questions but make no statements. Further, any demand/claim for money respond with conditional acceptance. ie. happy to pay subject to proof of claim of any debt/contract. If you ignore it, your acquiescence can be seen as acceptance and dishonour. If you correspond ensure you include "without prejudice" at the top and something like "subject to agreement, contract and finalisation of terms" showing you are only in discussions or negotiation phase and even "all rights reserved" for further protection. CSA(trading name for DHS) are a 3rd party to any arrangement with your ex. Just because your ex chooses to contract with them doesn't mean you have to. Also, it doesn't always mean your ex is bad for claiming child support as it is a STRICT condition before they can receive a Centrelink benefit. ie.Many good exes are forced/coerced into applying to CSA to get benefits for survival. Remember CSA need your consent/authority so don't give it to them. They are tricky, bluff and do almost anything to form a binding agreement with you. They are not your friend but a business, it's all business, whose aim is to profit from ignorant souls so be aware and stay alert peeps!
    By: Ben from Nsw, Australia on August 3, 2016 @ 4:53 am
    Get out before official payments start. Once they start its so hard to stop. Any potential payers please listen and give yourself a decent future
    By: Shell from Victoria, Australia on August 2, 2016 @ 8:25 pm
    I have watched my husband of 13 years go through hell. His ex had an affair and took off. We had the kids every fortnight and as long as he did what he was told it was all hunky dory. We caught his daughters going through our bank statement and personal info and texting info back to their mother. That was it for me . She has emotionally blackmailed my husband for years and in fear of losing his kids he would never stand up to her. We finally got a restraining order but guess what. She stopped the kids from coming and now gets even more money. We have 2 children together I am unable to work due to illness, my husband suffers depression and has contemplated suicide on several occasions. CSA treats men like they are a piece of crap. I even got an MP involved and got us no where. CSA and Family Relations are a load of arseholes as far as I'm concerned. Make your voice heard and join Paulin Hansens One Nation Facebook page. Get off your arses you blokes and start writing complaints. Inundate MPs. PLEASE make a stand don,t just sit there.
    Coming from a woman I have seen the affects and trauma that you blokes go through
    The system needs to be changed
    By: Garret Lavigne from Florida, United States on July 30, 2016 @ 1:03 am
    I live in Massachusetts which charge me for a child that is not mine and refuse DNA testing 3 times throw me in jail still fighting 28 years later the system is not corrupt it should be called extortion call the congressman he said can't help me because it is State not federal butt they can go after me even though I live in another state if this is not b******* what is will not stop fighting
    By: Carlos from Nt, Au on July 29, 2016 @ 9:03 am
    I got to adjourn/postpone my court case on medical grounds. Don't know what the fuck I'm going to do once I have to go there. Csa has never been ordered to doc my wages but they do so I changed jobs but my ex found out and now they're chasing me again so she took me to court but I'm only working part time and I'm scared I'll be left with nothing. I've heard only bad story's about paying parents and once I'm ordered to pay I'll never be un-ordered to pay.
    It's not fair. I Can't even sleep at night worrieing about all this.
    By: sean cooney from Western Australia, Australia on July 22, 2016 @ 12:08 am
    its financial this time the mother hasn't done anything wrong apart from still not working at all but lets face it she never worked really the whole 13 years we were together my gripe is now against child support office and the system now i don't have a job just found out today with a new job i cant afford to live because of what i earnt last year my child support has gone up $15000 for the year to $23000 for the year its enough pain the man cant spend the quality time he had with the kids before and i was always with my kids put them first always but now when i'm trying to rebuild after losing everything i've ever worked for and i've been working since i was 11 years old they have to smash my back pocket and stop me from progressing forward with my life and starting again very unjust is what this is be ok if the money were going straight to the kids but its not and just how much of this 23000 actually does she receive after the government takes there bit out.
    how bout telling her she must work also to take the burden out of how much i must pay problem is she wont work if she had we would still be together end of story she never had any intentions on working from moment we were living together with friends in kalgoorlie when she got glandular fever she never really worked from then onwards 13 years and i'm a bad father i fucked off all my mates gave up my life that was so good never went to clubs or pubs become the soft cock father i become worked my arse off feed clothed kept a roof over my families head become a great dad as you should i was responsible and i get repaid like this locked up for trying to give her our furniture and now i can no longer work because of how much they want per week! with that rent utilities petrol i couldn't even feed myself with whats left
    yes i can see why guys go top themselves the money they are asking for is more then i spend on food for me more then i spent on food for them and clearly i'm paying to support the ex that left me how because i earnt a good wage and still not what i am capable of earning how can my child support go from 140 bucks a week for three children too 390 a week for the same three children because i earnt more i just payed 30k in tax feels like i am being taxed even more here is this amount what the ex is getting or are the government run child support office taking a fee also that i am copping on my end here.i only went back on the road trains so i could pay my child support and restart my life at the same time i am the one that lost everything all i have left is a t.v. from my relationship this is inhumane justice this is
    this government wants to persecute me for earning a good wage right down to the point that if i go to work its absolutely pointless cause i wont be able to feed myself what message is it going to send my kids if i don't go back to work and when and how can i move forward with my own life if i work my arse off for no reward at the end of the week i have always been a worker not a dole bludger but now after today it really seems pointless going back to work at all
    1280. By: Chris bowman from Queensland, Australia on July 21, 2016 @ 7:40 pm
    I had a debt of about 700 dollars way back in feb 2015. Over the last 15 months i have made regular monthly payments plus additional payments to help reduce this debtdown to approx 400 dollars. Child support made the decision to gernish money from my employer not only for the outstanding debt at 100 dollars per week but also for ongoing payments. I rang them to discuss this situation which i thought was excessive forcefullness and we agreed to a payment plan far more suitable amount. However it seems the representative didnt follow the most efficient proceedures to prevent the direct payment from occuring and my employer was unaware of the agreement in place. Now i am 400 dollrs down for the next 2 weks wondering how i am going to pay my rent. Also my children are due down this weekend and i have minimal finances to house them. So where did the department falter and are they liable. Firstly they did not attempt to contact me on 3 occassions. They spoke to my wife who gave them my phone number yet they refused to call it. Do they hold the power to remove money from an individuals1 pay if there is evidence to show that individual is trying to uphold his obligations towards his children. Is the department liable for not fullfilling an agreement. I have been told the representative should have faxed the letter to my employer to ensure they received the information in time. Why doesnt the department take into consideration my time with the children as i do not see them bleeding my bank account dry as in the best interest of the children. What i find most amusing is that the department reacted to my expartner who was crying poor. If they consider each individuals situation they would see i am a low income earner renting a 3 bed house and receiving no child support payments whereas my ex with her new partner for the last 7 years is currently paying off a mortgage owns a farm in gympie and has 3 cars and runs her own business from home. Both her and her partner are smokers yet they still have no money to spend on the children
    By: gman from vic, Australia on July 21, 2016 @ 1:19 am
    Hi would like to know if anyone is getting mail from the csa.
    Two years plus ive received nothing. Yet they take as they please and disregard court orders. I refuse to create a my gov account it is not my government and i will not be forced to create and online account. I dont recieve phone calls either. They still send bullshit garnishment orders to my employer though never myself. Obviously the orders are not lawful ive pointed this out to employer but theyre too stupid to comprrhend.
    By: Jake from NSW, australia on July 21, 2016 @ 12:09 am
    Hi all, i am hoping someone can help.
    I have been paying child support every fortnight for 6+ years, never behind in payments. While I was with the ex she never worked, likewise now. Two years ago the ex moved away, 10 hours drive away. Subsequently the care percentage changed, I see them only for half school holidays, so therefore I ended up paying even more in CS. Ex is now pregnant which will effectively rule her out of the workforce indefinitely. My partner and I are at wit's end, we have two small children between us and can barely provide for them !
    I'm not self employed, on a salary. Is there legit ways I can lower my adjusted taxable income (salary sacrifice?) so I can save $$ that will be spent on all my children when they are in my care !!
    Thanks and regards.
    By: Mike from Vic, Aust on July 20, 2016 @ 8:53 pm
    Check out Pauline hansens one nation policies.

    She wants to pull apart the family court of injustice and the csa.
    On our issues I fully support her stance here as she recognises many of the injustices perpetratated against fathers in this current system.

    We should all send her an email of what we have been through and encourage her fight in this draconian area of government.

    By: Bruce from Qld, Australia on July 20, 2016 @ 7:57 pm
    Bruce if nothing else, im sure you can understand why statistically 21 fathers every week suicide over this issue.

    No you cant sue for parental alienation. It is child abuse yes, but there has never been a single case of prosecution. The only law governing this issue is the law of karma. Trust in that.

    So what can you do? Nothing. Sit on the sideline and hope to have a great relationship with your long lost son starting on his 18th birthday.

    If you fight the system you will be financially and emotionally bankrupt. Better to keep some sanity and look after number one.

    Keep it real.
    By: Mathew Innes from WA, Australia on July 19, 2016 @ 11:45 pm
    We need action we are being destroyed by rebellious men hating women who hide behind a week and insipid government.this one sided domestic violence campaign is a smoke screen to truth. the truth is that women are just as evil as men in there placation of themselves and their search for God like status in this country. its got to stop and we need balance and reality to come back to australian society.

    can someone tell me is there any real fight occurring in the parliament or on the streets for reduction in CSA powers. Also what about the enforcement of a presumption of equal rights and access to children. Is there any proposals for ex's to be fined for not encouraging visits and denying access.
    Also can i sue for lost involvement in my sons life and post traumatic stress disorder from not being able to have access to my son. is there a lawyer willing to take on such issue. Also the invasion of privacy by the CSA into your finances and the fact that we have to do all the work for them.

    I want action i have not seen my son for 4 years, i have been rejected by him and her family who are not lawyers, psychologists, counsellors or any other trained professional have brainwashed him and i want justice for all men who are persecuted for just being men!!!

    Down the CSA, Down with Ex's who need to grow up. Equal Rights to all for access
    By: J Jones from Tasmania, Australia on July 15, 2016 @ 12:08 am
    My partners lazy ex doesn't work either. And she has made it clear she doesn't want to. He has his daughter (shes 6) the same amount of time since they broke up. That hasn't decreased at all. The only thing that has changed is that we had a child together. I can't make sense of it...that the amount he has to pay has increased. He rings up about various things and each person has something different to say. We were planning to have another kid but we are to scared to lol.
    By: Erin from NSW, Australia on July 14, 2016 @ 10:58 am
    J Jones I'm in the same boat as you with a husband who pays CS to an ex. I'm a 13 year veteran of this crap now and the reasons he would have to pay more would be either because a) one of his kids he pays for has turned 13, b) the ex wife is earning less (this one never affects us because our lazy sow has never worked) or b) they have decided he has his kids less/never compared to before.

    If it's none of those things then the amount he pays should definitely not have increased.
    By: robin from New South Wales, australia on July 14, 2016 @ 9:48 am
    my x did the same has 3 companys in his name ( all making money ) and csa still say he doesnt work but when he takes the kids i get a letter from csa telling me i have to pay him because he has to support them while he has care wtf i have 360 days a yr and dont get a red cent from him or any help from csa
    By: J Jones from Tasmania, Australia on July 13, 2016 @ 8:00 pm
    My partner pays child support and although it has nothing to do with me, I am getting frustrated. He gave them his income estimate last year and they told him to pay $250 a month. We had a child together in December, he called them to let them know and he was told he only had to pay $212 a month. He called up a over a week ago to give them his new income estimate (same amount as last year) and was told he had to pay $253 a month. Then a few days ago, he gets mail which said he had to pay $303 a month. He called to ask what was going on and apparently that is what he has to pay. On top of all that, they back dated from last financial year and has to pay over $400 in arrears. After they were the ones that told him he only had to pay $250. They have just made life even harder for us. It seems we can't have any luxurious or enjoy life because they are always ringing up demanding more and more money. We are struggling enough and im not entitled to any parenting payment or anything because my partner earns to much. Been trying to find a job but with only one car, its hard to find anything local. We don't know what else to do. What is even more stupid is, he was earning more money and paying less child support at his last job and now earning less and paying more child support at his new job. Work that one out
    1270. By: Kim from Nsw, Australia on July 12, 2016 @ 8:00 pm
    CSA are crap and yes they dont discriminate when it comes to male's or females.I raised my son for 16 yrs with minimum payments from his father $15 a month. Ive always worked and supported my son with no help from centerlink either.recently my son has gone to live with his dad and i get a letter from CSA telling me that my sons father has asked them to collect payments from me $100 a week. I asked them where is that fair Ive raised my son all his life with no help from him and now I'm being screwed over. Not only the asshole father takes my boy away and fills his head with crap he also wants to take my hard earned sons father has his own company but he rides everything off as a loss to drematicaly reduced his tax for childsupport purposes.
    By: Maynard b from Nsw, Au on July 9, 2016 @ 1:49 am
    I do NOT repeat DO NOT PAY child support any more!!
    I have ceased to pay child support COMPLETELY!
    I did it by doing the following:
    • working for cash
    •dropping off the internet/seemingly disappearing from the planet
    •putting my car into my fathers name and listing myself infrequent driver
    • having no bank accounts and no assets ***on Paper***

    I'm currently living the life (seriously!) financially. I buy clothes and food and gadgets whenever I feel like it because I HAVE THE MONEY to do so! I take annual holidays overseas and eat out at expensive restaurants and enjoy really good drink. I enjoy them because I deserve them AND SO DO YOU csa PAYERS!

    It angers me that my kids are withheld and I won't pay when I have no contact with them (yes I've been to court, yes I've paid for a lawyer, yes she withheld anyway, yes I took her back, yes the same thing happened, yes I ran out of money and energy) BUT I will never be forced to pay again.

    You can successfully stop paying without a spellcaster *cough* BS artist
    By: Rob from WA, Australia on July 7, 2016 @ 3:35 am
    Allison, your response to Thom is spot on. I am a victim of this myself. Had a private agreement paying the ex what the CSA advised then when she decided she wanted more she opted "In" to have CSA collect and basically even though my bank records show auto payment ammounts of what the CSA were prescribing how could i "prove" it was for child support??
    Then to rub salt in the ex went for money out of my redundancy after i got laid off and got herself a nice little $9k back payment(after id been out of qwork for 9 months i might add!!) Fu*k me i got done over again. The CSA are simply corrupt and do not investigate at all.
    By: Herman Boitze from WA, Australia on July 6, 2016 @ 8:57 pm
    So I recently received a letter from csa my girlfriend opened it I'm sure I told her to return sender anyways it was saying please don't forget to lodge your tax so we can make sure you are paying the correct amount of child support. What a load of bs! It's more like so we can make sure we take your whole tax and pay these unwanted bs arrears that magically come up yet I never miss a payment keep me sending your letters csa your not getting shit from me
    By: Allison from Vic, Australia on July 6, 2016 @ 7:18 pm
    This comment is for Thom I just wanted to mention that at anytime your ex wife can contact CSA and inform them that she has not received payments you will then be taken to the cleaners for future child support and any back pay the CSA thinks you owe (sorry to dampen your excitement). My husbands ex wife said the same thing then a year later came back wanting to strip him of every penny even though he was paying her privately before this time.
    By: john greenwood from vic, australia on July 6, 2016 @ 2:00 pm
    the only way men can get a fair deal, is for all people paying child support to stop and pay no more until such time as this broken system is mended and men are treated with the dignity they deserve.
    By: robin from New South Wales, australia on July 4, 2016 @ 12:55 pm
    all men r assholes
    Im not 1 of those women u speck about
    i dont even receive a red cent of csa payments
    And if there was a site for those women to go on to down grade men like this site then i would be on it
    Its not only the male who gets ripped of by the system its females as well. Change CSA rules u have to change the family law first
    By: Thom from Na, Australia on July 3, 2016 @ 10:13 pm
    My ex wife promised me during our divorce that if I "leave them alone and just disappear" then she "won't claim child support". I haven't seen or spoken to my ex wife or my kids in just under 2 years. Just last week I got a call from csa out of the blue telling me that I don't need to pay them because my ex and I have our own arrangement now and I just agreed with it not knowing what else to do. I no longer have to pay csa out of my paycheck. I'm relieved I can get my life back on track because I've really been struggling these last few years since we split up. Spose if this s*** is for real it's time I start moving forward with my life and wait until my children are 18 then make contact with them again. I'm sad that I have to wait so long but I've been prevented from establishing a true and meaningful relationship with my kids anyway so it's better that it'll be on our terms when theyre 18 and not on my ex's terms like it would be now.
    Does this mean I beat the csa and they won't call me again EVER? If so then woah I can finally breathe normal again
    By: Mike from Vic, Aust on July 3, 2016 @ 9:38 pm
    Hi - all men are assholes + members

    I fully agree with you.

    Every opportunity I get to talk to young men I advise them of all the pitfalls of having children in this country and what they face when it turns to shit.

    I emplore all men on this site to do the same because the only winning move for men here is NOT to have children.

    Advise them,
    Never trust a women, don't take it for granted when she says she's on the pill that she really is. Go to the doctors and ask for the male pill for yourself. An injection once every 3 weeks stops the production of sperm and is reversible when you come of it.

    But in this country why would you take the risk?
    By: Herman Boitze from WA, Australia on July 2, 2016 @ 10:04 pm
    I've decided too no more contact with csa they can all kiss my butt I will not be saying anything to my daughter about stuff and if x has a problem then too bad I'm not saying or giving her shit too she's the reason this is happening if she really didn't need my money why not agree to go private? No more! And csa no more ringing them, no more answering their calls, no more receiving their mail I'm going to return to sender, no more lodging my taxes, no more no more enough is enough. If I get in the shit I will let you all know what happens to me. But for now it's about time I get on and enjoy life I deserve it so do all of you.
    1260. By: Kris from nsw, ZOG on July 2, 2016 @ 12:37 pm
    Hi to all paying parents. Csa/family flaw multi billion dollar racket destroying families and creating the new"stolen generation " and creating "domestic violence ".
    Greg, there is a country song out there " men don't have to die to go to hell".
    Been thorough a bit myself, same shit that everyone else talks about here.
    It all goes back to Whitlam who made the no fault divorce shit we have now,yet you make a sworn oath on the marriage act, which means nothing if one chooses to brake it ,by cheating for example. Coupled with awarding the majority of the assets and children + cs to the woman, then why do you think we have domestic violence? How can we fight when we dont know who to fight? This was all designed by those judas goats to destroy the family , the agenda is political correctness, homosexual marriage, environment, equality (to some),feminism etc. These ideologies are gripping the world, and how didthey just come about? Through the bees ppollination? No they are well financed by the Judas goats.
    By: All men are assholes from qld, australia on July 2, 2016 @ 9:38 am
    Well robin i can understand your concern with my comments if you have daughters they stand to loose out on financial gain and early retirement if men won't marry . Secondly no one likes to hear the truth about themselves especially women i don't mind being the brave one . Feel free to read other comments submitted on this site they all tell the same story . Your use of bold type to ram home your opinion and the fact that your on a site for men and barking at others tells me your most likely one of those women i avoid .
    By: Ben from Nsw, Australia on July 2, 2016 @ 8:35 am
    I have had a really messy split with my ex after catching her cheating. She is really nasty and will do anything to get her own way. She refused to let me take anything from my house, even calling the police when I collected a towball from the garage so I could start my new life, after having for the first time in my life having to get a store credit card to set myself up with the basics like a bed. She threatened to concoct assault charges on me if I didn't give her most of the settlement of our assets, fortunately her story was quickly dismissed by the police. We shared a family business that my ex ran, I was shut out completely. Even to the point of her selling part of the business, lying about it and hiding the money.

    Child Support Australia assessed her income at a few hundred dollars per year, which was obvious to everyone that this was a ridiculous lie. After selling most of the business my ex worked full-time. CSA refused to change the income as I didn't have proof of her employment. Eventually I gathered the evidence and CSA are refusing to backdate any payments. She is still able to hide her commission payments.CSA is a corrupt system run by people who hate men and treat all men as bad fathers. I have lodged a formal complaint, but I have no real say.

    I have spent a tonne on lawyer fees, and have gone nowhere. Last night I picked up my 10year old who abused and screamed at me. His mother continues to use every trick in the book to manipulate the situation. Fortunately my 13yr old has seen through the lies and sees her for what she is.

    CSA not only ruins the lives of Dads, but through its hatred of men, it destroys the lives of children. I agree that I am responsible in part of the costs of raising my kids, but when the kids are viewed as a way of making money by women, as a thing to be manipulated and exploited the system is very wrong.
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